Sermon

Christ Chapel

May 10, 2001

William C. Spong, D.D.

Professor of Pastoral Theology

 

                                               

 

Truly, truly I tell you, a servant is not greater than his master; nor is he who is sent greater than he who sent him...

                                                                                                                        John 13:16 ff

 

 

 

                                    Daddy played piano, played it very well.

                                    Music from those hands could catch you like a spell.

                                    He could make you love him, ‘for the tune was done

                                    You have your daddy’s hands, you are your daddy’s son...

 

                                    Daddy played piano, bet he’s playing still

                                    Mama can’t forget him, don’t suppose I will.

 

                                    God wants no excuses, I have only one

                                    You have your daddy’s hands, Forgive me

                                    You are your daddy’s son.

                                                                                    Ragtime

 

 

            I don’t know what to do today is this pulpit. Looking at you, not wanting to be here, knowing I must. It is a sea of memories, looking for the glue that holds it all together.

 

            I remember it was the summer of 1972. Hudnall Harvey was the Dean of the seminary. Just following commencement, he died of a massive heart attack. I was one of his last pieces of work; I arrived in July.

 

            One of the first people I met was Dee Dee Harvey, Hud’s wife and life partner. It was very hard for her. She said to me, “you know, Will, when school starts in September, I will not know one-third of the student body.  A year later, I will only know the seniors, and then at the end of two years, I won’t know anyone. That’s how fast a person can lapse into obscurity.” I said,  but Dee Dee, you have your memories.” And she said, “Memories are always measured in time frames. Watch the alums when they come back; they only talk about what it was like when they were here.” The institution is always gathering its memories, but the institution is always larger, longer, than anyone’s memories of it. Everyone must live within inevitable consequences of memory.

 

            I remember my first sermon in this place. I recall looking out at the congregation, not unlike you, and feeling waves of fear. I was not smart enough, old enough, articulate enough, not degreed enough. I did not feel like I belonged here, so I told a story about a frog named Kermit, made famous by Jim Hensen, who extolled the virtues of being ordinary. You see, I was talking about myself ... being green, free to succeed / free to fail. The song was really written for black children – you remember the one; Amy sang it on Monday evening. The idea was that people with bad opinions about themselves needed to make their way. People began giving me frogs. It was my first memory, the theology of being ordinary.

 

            I have always been fascinated with memory, not in the Jungian sense, but in the sense of the best understanding of anamnesis, calling into the present moments of the past for their current meaning. Remember in the Prayer Book: having in remembrance his blessed passion and precious death, his mighty resurrection and glorious ascension...

 

            To remember Jesus is to remember the bad stuff first: the cross, sweat, thieves,  Samaritans, Judas, Peter. To remember Jesus is to recall the feet, the hands, the tomb, and the women. All of that harsh memory got absorbed in the good times of the Resurrection. But memory is a balancing act between bad things and good things. Sometimes, the church fails to understand that concept. “Keep it nice,” they say, “don’t upset. Church should be uplifting.” Sickness is downplayed, conflict is submerged, and death is sleeping. But everything is not nice. Crucifixion is not nice, and Gospel is not faithful when it only reports happy times.

 

            I remember my father. I was nine when he died; I loved him. I would do anything for him, like rake the back yard for an RC Cola and a moon pie. Or sit and listen to him play Scott Joplin because Daddy played piano, played it very well; music from those hands could catch you in his spell. I also remember the other things: throwing food across the table at my mother, cursing her, falling down the stairs, telling my brother that he was a lazy misfit and would never amount to anything, running his hand up my mother’s dress and embarrassing her. I remember the bottles, the profanity, the abuse, but also the love, the gathering into his arms, and the laughter. My father was all of those things, horrible things, wonderful things. It was anamnesis: weaving beauty into chaos, and living with the tension.

 

            It was true for Jesus, it was true for my father, and it is true for me, and us, I suspect. Things we never said, come together, the hidden truth no longer haunting me. Today we spoke of the things that were never spoken, that kind of understanding sets me free. I can’t believe you love me, never thought you’d come, guess I misjudged the love between a father and his son...

 

            Surely it is true for this beloved place; a sea of memories, some wonderful, some disastrous. The anamnesis of this seminary, thinking back ...

 

            My first pastoral assignment was when the Dean, whose name was Larry Brown, asked me to visit the dorm and calm down a law student living there who was drunk, who took off all of his clothes and ran across the campus, past the chapel where a liturgical class was in session. He flashed by, with only a can of deodorant with him, on his way to the Centennial Liquor Store where he was arrested. Frankly, I would have rather been in Philadelphia. Some people love to show off their shortcomings.

            And in the third week, I had to stand in this space and read: If your eye offends you, pluck it out. You know I could do just that, and I started laughing. Everyone knew that the plastic eye was the one with the gleam of human kindness in it; and we roared together, and this place became my home.

 

            Or the time I was the high priest at the altar and when the incense was presented to me, which itself was strange for a graduate of Virginia Seminary, and I censed the altar, the bottom fell off the thurible, and charcoal and incense burned the carpet, and the lifting off of the charcoal was our evening sacrifice.

 

            Or when Frank Sugeno, the church historian, was celebrating at the altar. Frank never knew that those little packages only had fifty wafers in them, but he thought they numbered 100. We had hardly communicated one-third of the congregation and we ran out of bread. I went up to Frank and said quietly, “Frank, it seems there’s not enough bread to feed this crowd!” Frank said, “Make the people sit down.” The server that day was a student named Mark Wood, and he came up to Frank and said quietly, “There is a Lad here with some bread and a few fishes, but what is that among so many?” You can laugh even in the midst of serious matters. And the soul of this place was forming.

 

            It was not always happy. I remember helping to dismiss a student because he was living a gay lifestyle; I am still sad about that; it was 25 years ago. Or the student who asked me if he could speak to me in confidence, and I said yes, and he told me he had cheated on Bill Green’s final. Or when faculty was not speaking to faculty because we voted differently over curriculum reform. Or being taken to dinner because your colleagues were not happy with you; first they feed you steak and Beefeaters gin as a preamble to being set straight. We owed that to each other, and still do.

 

            One morning Hal Perry, the assistant Dean and teacher of Anglican Church History and Liturgics, did not come to work, and Bill Green and Dusty found him dead in his kitchen, a victim of a heart attack. I still remember Hal’s sermons about Joseph and charity towards others. I remember his Maalox during faculty meetings, and his sighs. Hal Perry is now an abstraction to most of you, but he was a major player in our history. It only takes two years to become obscure here. We still weep when we think of Hal, those of us who remember him.

 

            I remember when Church History Theology was a nightmare to the students here. One year every middler flunked the course. And the seminary endured yet another crisis, forming into subgroups to consolidate their hostility, students and faculty alike.

 

            Or the time when a student named Harry Way petitioned the Dewey Curtis Edwards scholarship committee for financial assistance because he needed to get his rear end repaired. The committee turned him down because they could not afford to fix cars. In Harry’s case, the problem was hemorrhoids. We formed a fund called the Harry Way Priest award for noble causes.

 

            I ended a 27 year marriage in this place, a matter of real failure for me. When it happened, I was afraid that I would be asked to leave here. I was frightened; I was supposed to know about marriage and the family. I lied for many years about that marriage, but I could not see about myself what others saw, and they couldn’t tell me. I learned how much courage it took to tell the truth and how easy it is to be in this profession and lie about anything that makes you look bad.

 

            I have come to believe that integrity is so much better than orthodoxy. It was around this altar that I married again, to someone who makes the pieces fit; no one should be so lucky. Charlie Cook presided that day.

 

            I have learned about the gift of friendship, of how Charlie and Bill Green nurtured me back to health again; of Dusty’s fidelity to whatever I needed; to the students who taught me you can teach and colleague at the same time; to Jerry Albert who said “Sometimes you have to pick up the shit and carry it, Will.” And those memories persist to this very day; it comes in the form of Michael’s steadiness, and Russell’s presence and honesty; and Harold and Pat’s constancy; and Bill and Amy who rocked me on the night my mother died; and Bob Kinney who is as good a friend as you can have; and Rob Cogswell and Mikail who have given the library a new sacramental touch of coffee, cookies, and the New York Times; and Bose and Busbey who put up with what they know they have to put up with; and Paul, Flora, and Cynthia who will be the stewards of this place in the future; and Corinne who may be the soul of this school, with eloquence and compassion; and Susan who weathers her job with so much pain and so much desire; to Alan who in his brilliance understands so much, including burlesque, bowels and buttocks and beauty; to John Bennet and Nancy Springer-Baldwin who keep the doors open; Theresa, Susan, Sue, Mary, Joe, Madelyn, Jan, and Amanda, Mary Hicks, Betsy and Eloise who do so much for such little credit, and Fito and Domenic (who’s leaving May 29) who try diligently to usher the faculty into the new millennium. And De, happily married to Bob, and who truly belongs here. And Ray, Jay, Faye, and the others across the street who stretch us to look beyond the narrow confines of being Episcopalians. And then Marcos, Rick, Vicky, Jesse, and Rade who we cannot praise enough. And April, who made liturgical dance something that I could really enjoy.

 

            And to each of you, arguably different, not to be compared, not to be put down as adolescents because you are students. Everything we do here is because of you; don’t let the seminary ever forget that!

 

            The seminary is human, and when we get unhappy and condemn it for this or that, we all have a foretaste of what a parish church is like, and maybe our conflict here will teach us how to be on the receiving end. For those who are the most uncharitable will be dealt with the most uncharitably. For rage will be directed towards us, make no mistake about that.

 

            When I was very small, and at the end of the calendar year the new year was ushered in like a newborn baby, while the old year was old, tired, and wounded. I sometimes feel that our seminary is like the old year. This place has a personality and needs to be cared for, and we need to be proud of it, not because it’s perfect, but because it isn’t. No individual faculty, student, staff or administration, dean or trustee should ever place their needs above the school, just as no parishioner should ever place their agenda ahead of the church, because a servant is not greater than the master, nor is the one sent greater than he who sent her.

 

            You have graced my life with love and candor for a long time. Please forgive me for the things I have not done well, and they are many. I love you all very much. Monday night was nothing but grace for me.

 

            So go in peace, remember the poor, visit the sick, care for the dying, love one another, and if you come to the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has a grievance against you, leave the altar and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift. And may the power of the Gospel run with you this day and for the rest of your life.

 

                                                                                                            Amen.